Is my self consciousness causing my daughter to be self conscious ?

Last Saturday David and I took the girls to Monkey Joe's. It's an indoor playground that they both love. Serenity loves to play with other children. On this occasion there was a little girl there that was a little snooty and was ignoring Serenity and she wouldn't play with her. I could tell this really was hurting Serenity's feelings so I pulled her aside to talk to her. I told her that sometimes there will be children that won't play with her. But that shouldn't make her feel bad because that isn't the type of child she should want to be friends with. She then said the sentence that shook me. She said, "But I want to BE like her." I sat there stunned in silence for a minute and then I hugged her and told her that God made her absolutely perfect and that she should NEVER want to be like anyone else in this world. I told her how beautiful she is and how special she is hoping and praying that it will get through to her. But on Wednesday night at church I was telling her Gee about this and she said, "You know, that's funny. She said the same thing to me a few days ago." So that right there told me that just telling her how beautiful she is and hugging her did not do the trick. Lisa (her Gee) of course told her the SAME exact thing I did. That God made her perfect, that she is beautiful and she should never want to be like anyone else. But after I left church it really got me thinking that if it didn't get through to her the first time I said it to her, it probably didn't work when Gee said it either. Lisa also said something to me at church on Wednesday night about how she is watching us when we look at ourselves in the mirror. How we change clothes 10 times because we don't think we look good in anything. So I have been making a more conscious decision to watch how I act around my girls. I show "Self Love" more often and not say "Oh I'm not gonna eat that, I'll gain 5 lbs!". I know with having the Lap Band that I really have to watch what I eat and everything but I CAN control how much I talk about it in front of my children. Serenity is being home schooled. Partly because it is a Christian based  program and most of the kids in our church do homeschooling and are apart of this program. But mostly because I want to protect her from the cruelness of other children as long as I can. At the age of 5, she is really impressionable. She can get her feelings hurt and other kids can make lasting marks on how my child will forever view herself and the world. I don't want her having bad self esteem because a cruel little boy in kindergarten teased her. So for now, I will shelter her with love and support and with God. And I will also work on changing my image in my head. Loving myself more. Because if she sees everything else, she will see when I start loving myself.